Heartbroken…

Kervens on Arrival - 14 March 2011-3Kervens had come to GLA back in March very very sick.  He was severely malnourished and mama was young and didn’t know how to take care of him.  Everyone helped her and gave her so much advice, but she was simple and could not understand everything she was told.  We sent her home with him in June and three days later she was back and he was almost dead.  We don’t think she fed him the whole time she had him home! 

The nursing staff worked so hard to get him well again and he was doing GREAT!  We did not want to send him and his mother home again until his grandmother was there.  We felt that surely the grandmother would watch over him and take care of him!  The mother wanted to keep him and not give him for adoption, so we were trying to keep them together.  IMG_0943

Well, Mirlanda took her son home again on Wednesday.  He was fat, healthy, and happy!  We sent formula with him and I personally talked to his mother about boiling all of his water or using bottled water only for him.  I also talked to her about coming back right away if he got sick.

It bothers me that exactly three days after he left, he shows up again almost dead!  He was hot and had lost lots of weight already!  He was barely breathing when he and his mother arrived.  He died before I got upstairs and we tried but could not revive him!

I know that we probably shouldn’t have been angry, but we were very angry with his mother!  I do not think she took care of him at all after she left us.  Three Days!  He was only gone…3 days!

Kervens was not a premature baby that even with the best medical available in the States, Canada, or Europe, might not survive!  He was almost a year old!  He knew people and was starting to have a personality!  He should NOT have died!

My staff is crying and very upset.  They were afraid this would happen if he was sent home with his mother.  But what do you do in a country where the social service system cannot follow or help cases like this? 

You send them home with a prayer, a kiss, baby formula, and all of the information that you can give them and hope for the best.  And sometimes, live with a broken heart because you could not save them all!

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19 comments (Add your own)

1. Judy wrote:
Oh, Dixie, what a heartbreaking story! Praying for you and your staff.

Sun, August 14, 2011 @ 3:31 PM

2. Carmen wrote:
Keeping all of you in our prayers. I'm afraid no words are adequate in this trying time. May you find peace.

Sun, August 14, 2011 @ 3:49 PM

3. Jodi Klassen wrote:
I remember this little one and the mom from when we were there in April. This totally breaks my heart, I can't imagine how you all must be feeling. I would have been angry too. Thank you for the love you do give these kids and for trying everything in your power to help them.

Sun, August 14, 2011 @ 4:31 PM

4. Elissa wrote:
May God give you strength, there are no words that will be of comfort.....Simply heartbreaking....

Sun, August 14, 2011 @ 4:34 PM

5. Candace Pruett wrote:
Sending my prayers to you, your staff and Kervens. And to Goad and the Red Cross and Unicef and everyone else to get some contraception and education to the women of Haiti!

Sun, August 14, 2011 @ 4:36 PM

6. Kristin Schell wrote:
Praying for the staff in Haiti. What a heartbreaking story. I am asking God to bless you all beyond measure in the weeks ahead. There has been a lot of sad things lately. We pray for you daily.

Sun, August 14, 2011 @ 5:31 PM

7. Jim Bugert wrote:
Dixie, Here is just some of what positive comes from your post: Training and Education. You are training mothers whether you know it or not. Education is what we are gaining from your posts. I do not know much about love but I do know about caring. As you train and educate the world will know and start to care. When the world cares, the world loves. We care about you and your work so keep up the good work, you are doing just what He wants you to do> YOUR BEST. Thank you. PS: Say your prayers tonight and first thing in the morning:::: Listen to His answer.

Sun, August 14, 2011 @ 5:47 PM

8. Éliane Gauvreau wrote:
I might have it all wrong but. I am with you 100% that adoption is the best option for so many kids who have no chance at all to have a "decent" life in Haiti. These kids deserve a good family, a good education, love, care...everything a kid needs to have a good present and a good future to live. But if a mother wants to keep her baby and does not know how to care for him/her, would it be foolish to give those little guys and galls the same chances of having at least a good present to live and, who knows, a better future in Haiti because their moms had received the education to take care of them while they were little babies. Could it be possible to give those babies the same chances than those who will be adopted by educating and supervising their mom for the same period of time that it take to have a baby adopted. If they want to keep their babies why not give them the abilities they need. And by doing so give these kids at least the minimum to have a good present and who knows a good (or at least) a not so bad future. Just thinking aloud...

Sun, August 14, 2011 @ 6:24 PM

9. Kelly D wrote:
(((((((((((DIXIE)))))))))))))))) I am so sad and sorry that this happened :( I continue to pray that you and your staff will feel the loving arms of our Lord around you. And that He will continue to give you and the staff the strength to continue to show the love of Christ to these little ones and their families! I will also continue to pray that God will pierce the heart of those in charge of the rules that they will realize that adoption is the best thing for these beautiful children!!! Loving God, Loving Haiti, Loving GLA, and Loving YOU!!!! XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO Kelly D < :)

Sun, August 14, 2011 @ 6:47 PM

10. Esther wrote:
Oh but for a year he felt THE FATHER'S love. To be open to love means you are open to hurt. Kervens knew you loved him and that love held him during those three loveless days.

Sun, August 14, 2011 @ 8:06 PM

11. Sharon Wilkens wrote:
Some days I just pray, "Come Lord Jesus!"

Sun, August 14, 2011 @ 9:59 PM

12. Tom Vanderwell wrote:
Eliane - I have good personal friends who are doing that in Port Au Prince right now. But there are two problems which I'll be elaborating on more in the next few days: 1. There are way many more situations like Kervens than there are organizations who are able to provide that. 2. There are a LOT of dynamics to "helping" in that way that, if not done properly would be more damaging. 3. Doing that would require a substantial amount of resources, especially if one wanted to do it on the scale that Haiti needs. This "boat" that is Haiti can be turned around, but it's going to be a very long hard difficult process. And in the mean time, we need life boats like GLA to "catch" as many of the children as possible. More on that later this week. Tom

Sun, August 14, 2011 @ 10:35 PM

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Mon, August 15, 2011 @ 9:18 AM

14. Kathy Barnett wrote:
I'm at my computer with tears in my eyes not only for Kervens, but for all of you who tried to help him. I have no words to comfort you right now. Is all I can say is bless you all for all of those you do save. You are in my heart and prayers.

Mon, August 15, 2011 @ 1:31 PM

15. Éliane Gauvreau wrote:
Tom - I know, I know. It is just so heartbreaking to see a healty little boy like Kervens die because his mother lack so much education in caring for a baby... even after many visits at GLA receiving cares, help and advices. I just can't imagine how hard it must be for those who tried to keep him alive.

Mon, August 15, 2011 @ 7:36 PM

16. Michele wrote:
I am so sorry...my heart aches for that beautiful baby boy and for all of you who cared for him and loved him.

Mon, August 15, 2011 @ 10:23 PM

17. Jill wrote:
My heart is sad for you all and also for the mom too.

Wed, August 24, 2011 @ 1:11 PM

18. shamya wrote:
iam going to try harder and find money and give it to haiti so some kids can live

Mon, September 26, 2011 @ 8:11 PM

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Mon, September 26, 2011 @ 8:12 PM

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